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Women Step Your Sex Game Up!!!


No Sex

After I posted my most successful blog post ever last week (Who Wants To Put a Penis in Their Mouth, First Thing in the Morning?, I got a lot of feedback from the men, especially married men and I was actually surprised by the things they shared with me.  Marriages are ending and being ruined because of one simple thing.  To me it seems like a very simple thing and silly ol’ me, I even thought it came with the territory especially in a marriage.  After posting last week’s post I found out how so untrue my thinking was.  

It wasn’t the first time I’ve actually heard this, it’s been a huge topic in movies, TV shows, and novels but I wasn’t really buying into it, I just thought it made great entertainment.  What is this thing that I’m talking about that’s ruining marriages?  I was told from more than 10 married men that they actually have a hard time getting sex from their wives let alone a little morning head.  I’m still having a hard time believing this but if I’m hearing it from more than one man then there must be some truth to it.  

So ladies I’m becoming a spokesperson for the men (for just this one blog).  If you are one of these women, you better listen up & listen up good.  Unless you have a mental or health issue that prevents you from having sex  with your husband then you have no excuse to be withholding sex from your husband just because you’re tired or because you have a headache.  I’m sure before he proposed to you, you were doing all  the little nasty things you could do to him just so you could keep him.  Now that you have him, you feel like you don’t have to do the things you did to get him because you got him.  I’m sure if you read between the lines in your vows it says that it’s your job to sexually please your husband (and I’m only speaking to the women in healthy relationships).  Here’s a question, now that you got him, what are you going to do to keep him? 

I’m not even married but I know that men are simple human beings.  Feed them, make them laugh, give them some great sex, give them some space and 9 times out of 10 you’ll end up with a happy man.  We women love to feel special and wanted by our men and believe it or not they love to feel special and wanted by us.  If you ever believed in the saying “treat others as you want to be treated,” then this will be the perfect time to throw that saying into gear. 

We like to be surprised with flowers, candy, Edible Arrangement bouquets and maybe a night off from cooking.  Men like to be surprised with a little head in the morning, some fondling in the car before you get home (just to get the four play rolling), he’ll loose his mind if you push him on the bed and ripped his clothes off for once.  Men NEED to feel like you want them in every single way.  What’s wrong with initiating sex every once in a while?  You shouldn’t be embarrassed because he’s your husband.  

Do you want to know what’s going to happen if you don’t start pleasing YOUR husband the way HE wants to be pleased?  HE will then get someone to do the things that you don’t want to do.  He’ll go out looking for someone else to fulfill his sexual fantasies.  I think the fun part about being married is that you can do all the nasty things you’ve ever wanted to do and not be looked at or thought of as a hoe, because he’s your man.  The sky’s the limit with him because in normal cases the two of you shouldn’t have to worry about “catching” a STD or worse.  

Now you may be the type of woman who can get by with just one sexual act a month, hey, whatever floats your boat.  There’s nothing wrong with that but he may not be that guy, he may need it 3 to 5 times a week.  If that’s the case then the two of you are not sexually compatible. If you used to sex him down 3 to 5 times a week and you no longer do, then you need to contact the woman he’s cheating on you with and figure out how to get some more stamina. As a wife, there’s just no excuse! 

Please women, whatever you do, don’t act like you’re doing him a favor just by opening up your legs and laying there just so “mister can do his business.”  No one wants to have sex with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with them (unless they’re a necrophiliac).  

Men, don’t think I’m letting you off easy.  Don’t expect a woman to want to please you sexually if you’re not making them happy out of the bedroom.  If this is happening in your marriage, that’s probably the number one reason why she’s not excited to have sex with you.   It’s always mental with women.  If that’s the case I suggest the two of you to go to counseling or at the very least discuss your issues with one another.  

It’s sex people, it should be fun, especially with the person you’re going to be with “til death do us part.”





Is It Ever Ok To Snoop?!


I’m sure by now you’ve all heard of Bravo’s new hit TV Show Blood Sweat & Heels, where 6 ambitious women deal with the ups and downs of living in New York City.  If you haven’t, then you’ve been under a rock.  If you missed Sunday’s episode the women discussed rather or not if it’s ok to ever snoop on your man.  You know, going through his phone, email, voicemail, mail mail, facebook, instagram or whatever else you can think of.  The group of six women seemed to be split on that topic but they refused to agree to disagree.  

I honestly am not a snooper…..I’m a great believer in, if you go looking for something then you are sure to find it.  I know plenty of women who are avid snoopers and I’ve actually assisted in some of their snooping.  My friends tend to think that I work for the FBI and have access to information that they can’t find all because I happen to have a PhD in “Google.”  Hey, I said I don’t snoop on my man, I never said I didn’t assist.

The big question is…..Is it ever ok?  First let me say something to you men.  If you’re going to cheat on your woman, be smart enough to cover your dang on tracks.  The only time I feel that it’s ok to snoop on your man is if he was stupid enough to leave evidence around.  What kind, you ask?  If he leaves his facebook page or email open on your computer or if he leaves two movie tickets in your house.  Sounds simple but there are plenty of stupid men who have made those very same mistakes.

Women, I hate to tell you this, if you already have an inkling that your man is cheating, then he’s cheating or he’s in the secret service (pick the one that makes you feel better).  Now women, we go searching for this evidence because something deep inside of us say “I just have to know,” but you really already know.  All searching will do is cause a deeper hurt and an angrier heart.  

So what do you do when you find this information?  I’ll tell you, you end up calling or emailing the other woman who has nothing to do with the situation in the first place (unless it’s your cousin, friend or someone else you know…lol).  Your man comes home, you get in an argument, leave him or at the very least get mad at him for a couple of days and then you’re back in love with him.  If you find the information that you’re looking for, please do something with it.  As naive and as weak as this may sound….if you’re not going to leave him after finding hard core evidence that he has cheated just don’t look for it.  What you don’t know won’t hurt you.  

In order to avoid being in a situation where you might have to snoop, it’s definitely best to have the lines of communication open and be honest with one another.  Realistically that’s not always the case.  You have to ask yourself how much are you willing to put up with, with this man and be ok with it.  If you’re fine with him cheating on you and you snooping on him, then do you. If you’re not ok with that, then you should probably find another man.  I know that it’s easier said then done but sometimes doing what’s right may be the hardest thing to do.

Until Next Time….