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What Makes a Man a Bad F*&%……From The Female’s Prospective!

Ok Ladies, my last post was catered to the men and how they really feel about us in bed.  They went in on us ladies and I thank each and every last one of my contributors because we can’t get better at anything if we don’t know what we need to improve on.  So, the guys had their chance to vent now it’s our turn.  I must say that I’m very disappointed in the number of women that responded but I’m grateful for the few comments I did receive because they’re really good!  My good lady friends have spoken and let’s hear what they have to say in their opinion on what makes a man a bad sex partner!

I think you all know that I hold nothing back on my site and I give it to you straight and to the point and this one is no different.  Let’s GO!!!!

Patricia Lee, Eastern Shore, VA

“When they change positions every 2 mins. and when they stop every 6 strokes to stop from cumin fast.”

She makes a wonderful point guys!  First off guys let me say that I understand why you change positions as often as you do, if you do.  It’s because the vajussy that you’re in is so good that you can’t handle it, or you’re just very weak, wack and haven’t gotten any in a minute (take your pick).  Let me explain what switching positions and stopping every 6 strokes does for us women…..NOT A DAMN THING!!! You’re not giving us enough time to enjoy the position, to feel the position to allow your dick to massage our G-Spot enough to even give us an orgasm.  Which is why it’s much harder for us to cum.  Think about it, no matter what the position is, guys you are still getting stroked up and down giving you the same feeling the entire time.  For women the change of position or stopping could prevent us from having an orgasm because our sexual buttons are no longer being stimulated and then we have to start all over and build back up to our orgasm.  It’s just a turn off guys.

Here’s how you can save yourself.  Jerking off before you have sex can help prevent you from prematurely ejaculating during intercourse.  You can also use masturbation as a means of practice.  How?  You can practice not coming, when you’re on the verge of coming try to fight the feeling and use those same practices while you’re having sex.

There are also creams and gels to help you stay in the vajussy longer.  The creams will help desensitize your penis, allowing you to live in the sauce longer than usual.  You can find these creams over the counter in sex shops, Ricki’s and in your local drug stores.  Ginseng, is another method of giving you more stamina and energy (they come in drops as well as pills).

You can also practice something called the “Squeeze Method.”  When you feel like you’re about to come, squeeze the tip of your penis firmly for 10 to 20 seconds.  This will prolong ejaculation.  And as always if you prolong the four-play session and please the hell out of your woman, we may over look the fact that you can’t hang.  Remember, you can’t lack in both areas!

Christina Simon, Eastern Shore of VA

“I’m going to say a small packaged man. Sorry size does matter in my book. If I cant feel ya I can’t be with you lmao. If its the right size I can make it good cuz I will lead, but if it’s too small my stomach and head will hurt, I’m out lol.”

Guys you’ve heard this soooo many times.  Just in case you don’t know, let me remind you that we don’t give a flying crap about the motion of the ocean, if your boat isn’t large enough then we’re not going to sail that ship.  Size really does matter to us women.  Why?  A small penis effects our mental and our physical state.  For example, if we’re involved in a hot and heavy session of four play and our undies are soaked with our juices and we’re ready to go and then we place our hand on your small ass penis, our vajussy will dry up in a second.  Women who are extremely nice may continue and decide to have sex with you out of sympathy but strong minded, vocal women will let you know it ain’t happening.

Unfortunately men there is really no cure for the small dick disease.  I have yet to hear of one cream, oil or pump that actually enlarges a man’s penis but if you don’t believe me feel free to try.  You can find all types of products online and I refuse to look up any for you because they don’t work.  BUT here is a piece of advice you better learn how to eat the vajussy like you’ve never eaten it before, you better become the king of eating Vajussy, you better eat it so well that the woman forgets all about the fact that you have the smallest penis she’s ever seen.

Joi De Vivre, New York, NY

“If he sweats profusely and humps like a jack rabbit, all the while keeping his eyes closed lol.”

Joi actually gives me two problems in this one statement so I’ll start off with the sweating.  Some men can’t help the sweat, but I understand that too much sweat starts to feel a little disgusting.  When my guy sweats, he sweats just enough and leaves a light coat of it on my body and I think that’s sexy.  But if it’s dripping everywhere that may become a little unbearable.  There’s not much you can do but I suggest you keep a towel by the bed so that you can wipe the sweat off in between pumps.  Try having sex in the shower, if you sweat she’ll never know because you both are already wet….. 🙂  Ladies if you have this issue and are afraid to say it to your man, try suggesting the shower that way you’re not criticizing him and he’ll think you just want to be freaky.

2nd issue, the infamous Jack Rabbit pump.  For those of you that don’t know what that means, it means pumping extremely fast. Men I’ll tell you this right now, pumping really fast is selfish, immature and shows the lack of your sexual skills.  Let’s start off with selfish, we all know the quicker you pump, the quicker you come which then leaves us upset, frustrated and most of all orgasmless!  Immature can also fall under selfish because only an immature person will be for self during sex.  The more mentally mature you are the more you understand that your job is to please your partner.  LACK OF SEXUAL SKILLS: If you knew anything at all about sex you wouldn’t perform this horrible move.  It also let’s me know that you know no other moves but this one.  It does nothing for us women and it fucks our heads up.

Ladies, I blame this on you too because you should learn how to be more vocal about what you want in bed, stop him, grab him by the waist and guide his ass the way you want him to.  If you’re too afraid to do that tell him to stop because you a fool if you lay there and allow him to jack hammer your Vajussy.

MEN please know that we HATE this type of stroke and if you’re doing because you’ve seen it done in porn, do me a favor and take a look at the woman’s face I can promise you she’s not enjoying it.   And guess what?  We talk about it too, we’ll go back and tell our homegirls what a horrible fuck you were, I have a homegirl right now who talks about how much she hates it when a man fast pumps.  So please just take my advice and I’ll promise you, your lady will love you a little bit more.

I would like to thank Patrica Lee, Chrissy Simon & Joi De Vivre (I don’t think that’s her real last name….LOL) for contributing to my post.  I write for you all and I love to write what you want me to write and I especially love it it when you contribute to the post. Please leave a comment and subscribe to my blog.

Until Next Post……Love, Peace and Freakiness!!!

What Exactly is Tantric Sex?

Most of you know that I started shooting a new show this week so I’m going to be having a rough time balancing work, writing for the blog site and writing the new Risque novel.  I promise I’m going to be trying my best to please you all and to keep you on your Risque fix.

Today’s topic is very interesting. It’s something I’ve never done before but wouldn’t mind doing it, I just know it’ll be hard to find a guy who’ll be willing to try this with me and fully commit to it.  Before I do anything I always like to do my research, this way we can all learn about this at the same time.

I first heard about this particular type of sex through Diddy.  Way before I was on twitter Diddy twitted that he was in his 35th hour of  marathon sex.  Do I believe he would pick up the phone during sex?  Yes.  Would I have smacked the beJesus out of him if I was the woman?  Yes.  I became curious, did a little research, found it to be too confusing and soon forgot about it until Dawn & Que tweeted about it.

What am I talking about my peeps?  I’m talking about Tantric Sex which is the slow sustained form of sexual intercourse founded on Indian mysticism.  We’re going to take a deeper look into what it is and the benefits from it.  I think we can all agree when we have sex we all want the same outcome, to feel good and for lack of better words to bust a nut.  Tantric Sex is just the opposite.  Your goal during a session of Tantric Sex should be to prolong the orgasm in order to increase your sexual energy and intimacy with your partner.

Why would anyone want to do that?  Have sex and not have an ending point?  It’s because Tantric Sex allows you to feel and focus on all of the other feelings and emotions that happen before the orgasm.  Even though Tantric Sex can last up to an insanely number of hours, another one of your goals is to preserve your energy.  When you experience an orgasm or release any amount of come, you are releasing energy from your body.  Don’t worry it is possible for men to have an orgasm with out releasing any fluid, but normally that comes with being a pro at Tantric Sex.  A man must be able to have enough control mentally and physically to have what they call a dry orgasm, on purpose.

I like to describe Tantric Sex as sexual yoga, because it’s based on breathing to cycle energy.  You breath in each other’s air to create energy.  Sort of like sexual photosynthesis (without the light).  It involves a lot of conscious breathing, eye contact and visualization.  It’s connecting spiritually with your partner.  It sounds like hard work and it is but here are a few beginner points if you’re interested in pursuing in this spiritual sexual act.


You should be in a comfortable area a place where you are most relaxed.  You should accent the room with candles, flowers & dim lighting and anything sensual.  Anything distracting such as the tv, cell phones and clocks should be turned off.  It’s ok to have music playing softly in the background.  Scents are very important to sensuality so it’ll be a plus to have some oils, scented candles or incense burning as well.

Concentrate on Breathing

Breathing allows you to easily sync with your partner which is why breathing is so important in Tantric Sex.  One of the easiest way to do this is to have the woman straddle the man’s lap and your breathing should be opposite.  Meaning while she’s inhaling, he should be exhaling causing you to breath in each other’s breath, therefore creating energy.

Keep Eye Contact

This is also another way to stay sexually connected and intimate.  You know how they say the eyes are the windows to your soul.  Imagine making love to our partner seeing their soul and experiencing what they’re feeling.  It’ll only heighten your sensuality driving you both to a new level of ecstasy.  It’s a little difficult to do being that people naturally close their eyes when something feels good or bad.  Just try and stay conscious of keeping your eyes open.

Take Your Time

In my opinion sex is better when you take your time, and I’m obviously not the only person that believes this.  Four play is very important when it comes to Tantric sex.  Take your time with it, explore every inch of each other’s body.  The longer the four play the better, because the slow build helps men control longevity and piques women’s arousal.  The act of four-play is to build energy and that’s what Tantric Sex is all about.  So the longer you build your energy the longer your session will last.

Good Luck and I really hope you step outside of your sexual box and try something new.  After researching this topic I believe it can redefine sex.  If you’re tired of the old get in get out, humpty dumpty acts of regular sex, I challenge you to challenge yourselves and try Tantric Sex.  As soon as I post this, you better believe I’m starting my campaign to convince my boo to try it with me.  I know it’ll be a lil harder to convince the men but ladies give it a try!

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