Archive for January 19th, 2017


A couple of days ago I presented to you The Top 5 Things Women Should Stop Doing and I hope you all enjoyed it. In that same post I also promised you a men’s version of that article and here it is. 

Stop Leading Women On
Listen, I can’t say this enough…. STOP leading women on just so you can get what you want because contrary to what you think, if a woman wants to be with you she will.  The lies you tell in the beginning will only make things worse at the end (and there will be an end).  Are you really that afraid to be honest about what you want and who you are?  I had one guy tell me that he did it because he didn’t want anyone else to have her, but mean while he was out doing his thing while she believed they were in a relationship. I know plenty of women who would be ok with having a friend with benefits situation but you gotta be honest and upfront with her. You can get much further with a woman if you stop playing with her emotions for your benefit. Playing with a woman’s emotions is the perfect recipe to turn a woman crazy and now you’re caught up in a real life fatal attraction like Martin. 

Stop Being Flaky

Most women prefer consistency and that’s something we normally get in the beginning of our relationships. In the beginning of the relationship men are willing to do anything to get our attention, they’re soooo into us, they call us every morning just to say have a nice day, call before we go to bed, occasionally take us on dates, tell us how beautiful we are and once we latch on to their hook and become just as into them, things change. The phone calls slow down, it takes him longer to respond to text messages, he begins to come up with excuses as to why he can’t see you (the reason is mostly work but you were also working when you first met). Now all of a sudden we’re sitting here like, what the heck happened to the guy I first met? I understand that things change a little once you’re settled in a relationship but simple things like communication should remain consistent. We fell for you because of your consistency in the beginning not your flaky ways you began to showcase in the middle of our relationship. 

One thing I’ve learned as an adult is if someone wants to be with you, they would. If someone wants to call you, they would. When you don’t do the things you say you don’t have the time for any more we tend to not have time for you anymore….. but that’s probably what you wanted anyway…..and oh! If you wanna break it off with the girl, just tell her. Don’t go ghost or do things to make her mad to try and get her to leave you. That’s petty & childish, which leads us to our next topic……. 

Act Your Age, Not Your Shoe Size 

I know this is an old saying but if it ain’t broke don’t fix it, right? I also know this title doesn’t have the word “stop” in it but keep reading. A lot of different things can fall in to this section but I’ll do my best to keep it simple. There are a lot of grown men (let’s say 28 and up) out here doing very childish things but always broadcasting how much of a man they are.  Listen up, real men don’t have to broadcast the fact that they’re “grown ass men.” We see your beard, we know you’re a man. Real mean allow their actions to speak for them. Real men can walk or ride a bike to work because they understand that they have to take care of their family by any means necessary. To help you out further, here’s a list of things you should stop doing if you’re a “grown ass man.”

– Stop living beyond your means. Yes you need a car, but do you really need a 2017 Benz, only to have it repossessed a few months later. While you’re busy tricking everyone into believing you got it “made”, your lights are getting turned off at home. 

-Stop disrespecting women, a real man will walk away. 

– You kinda shouldn’t be living with your mom. The only exception to this is if you’re taking care of her & not the other way around. 

-Stop comparing your growth to others around you. Everyone isn’t meant to be as successful as the next so instead of complaining and wondering why them and not you, try figuring out how they became successful and begin working hard towards your goal. 

Stop Buying Magnums When You Should Be Buying Lifestyles

The title of this may sound funny but I’m serious…. Lol I know that it’s probably an ego thing with most of you and you would feel less of a man if you walked up to the counter with anything other than Magnums. You want everyone behind the counter and behind you in line to know that you’re “hung like a horse.”  Guess what everyone isn’t and its quite ok for you not to be because believe me, just because you pull out that gold wrapper it’s not going to magically make your partner believe that you’re larger than you are. 

Now, let me remind you why this isn’t funny. When you wear a condom that doesn’t fit you properly, it comes off so much easier and now the both of you are exposed to each other & if she’s not on birth control she could possibly become pregnant. Now you’re worried about diseases and pregnancy, all because you wanted to front in front of strangers in the pharmacy and buy the wrong-sized condoms, you my friend just wasted money. Please take my advice and buy the appropriate size, if she’s with you then she’s ok with whatever you may be holding, now it’s time for you to be ok with it. 

Stop Messing A Good Woman Up For The Next Man

Now I really contemplated hard about putting this one on this list but I ultimately decided to include because it actually came from a man, so if he said this about his own, then it must be true (he also said “and vice-versa” but he missed the women’s post). So to all of you men who are abusing and mistreating your women, just do us all a favor and let her go before you do anymore damage. When you constantly mistreat your woman and she stays, she gets used to it and eventually she’ll begin to think that this is how she should be treated and then she begins to feel worthless because by this time her self-esteem has hit rock bottom. 

When she finally gets the strength to leave you, she’s damaged goods & she’s built an unbreakable wall around her. Now she’s unwilling to give the next guy a chance because of her last experience. She becomes the “angry black woman” that a lot of men love to talk about and the number one reason why some black men only date outside of their race. But if you actually took the time out to ask her why she’s so angry, your feelings about her may change. Men be gentle with us, I know we’re super strong (that’s only because we have to be) but we’re just as fragile on the inside. 

I contemplated putting this on the list because I believed that women play a role in this too for staying. Then I realized that leaving and getting over something like this is not as easy as it seems. Especially because as women, we’re fixers, we want to make everything ok and by the time we realize that a person can’t be fixed or changed, it’s too late for us and then we become the victim. Just let her go. 

Honestly it wasn’t as easy for me to come up with 5 great ones. I came up with a lot but I really wanted this one to resonate because men keep doing the same ol’ things with no regard to women or themselves. I’m sure this post won’t change any lives but hopefully it’ll open a few eyes, so share this with a man near you.