Archive for January 16th, 2017




Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to look in the mirror and recognize stuff about ourselves, no matter how many times we’re told by others.  I want us to be great and not foolish so I’ve come up with a list of things we gotta stop doing as women (Don’t worry men, your list is coming up next).  Below you’ll find of list of things you gotta try and stop doing.


This might be the most important one on the list.  Just this past week, I was talking to someone who was recently reconnected with her ex-boyfriend.  She started talking about how he’s the one, how she could see herself marrying & having kids with and I was like whoa, whoa, whoa!   After telling her she was acting a little crazy I realized that a lot of women do this.  We do this because we always believe in the fantasy, we always believe that our prince charming is on the way and we get wrapped up in the thought of it all.  We start imagining our kids running around in a yard we’ve never seen before, we imagine sending our husbands off every morning with mind blowing sex and then two weeks later reality knocks on our door and we realize he’s not the one.

My advice to all of you fairy tale believers is just try to live in the moment and focus on the right now.  When it comes time for the TWO of you to think about the future, the TWO of you WILL be on the same page and it won’t be just you and your mind planning your entire future with someone you just met.  Men move a lot slower than us and even if they know they want to be with us forever, it’ll take them a lot longer than 24 hours to figure it out.


I’ve never been the one to snoop because I’m a firm believer of if you snoop you shall find….sooooo let’s get into this.  The only way that I would ever suggest snooping to someone is if some said to me “I swear fo goodness, If I find something I’m leaving him and I’m never looking back,” but how often does a woman actually leave a man when she finds evidence of him cheating?  Not often.  So what’s the point of snooping to find something so the two of you can argue about it just for you to stay. I honestly believe if you’re searching for something, you already know.  So stop snooping if it actually won’t make a difference if you stay or leave and not to mention it makes you look and feel crazy as hell when you snoop and you don’t find anything.


Now this is something that I’ve just recently discovered about us.  I was pleading my case to someone and I KNEW that I was right.  I mean I presented an exhibit A, B, & C while he presented nothing but three words and then he wrapped it up with, “you were just looking too deep into it.”  At that moment, I was like nah this is bull crap I mean you can’t really beat evidence right. LOL.  Then the next morning I’m watching the morning news and the female host is reading off the number one thing that men and women do that bothers the other sex and what do you know!  Looking too deep into things was the answer for women and not looking too deep into things was the answer for men.  Most men think one dimensional, very simple.  For example, if a guy thinks we’re dealing with someone on Facebook he’ll probably just check out the other guy’s page.  Not us, we will check the girl’s page, look through all their photos for the ones he liked, then we’re going to find her best friend’s page and look for jokes they may have shared with our man, go through her pics, then send those pics to our best friend to get their opinion…..LOL  We just do too much, keep your thought process simple, try and back it up when your mind gets to the third level of thinking.


This is pretty much self explanatory, if you’re tired of your man disrespecting you, coming home late, cheating, flirting on Facebook or whatever the case may be, stop arguing with him about it over and over and over sounding like a broken record.  If he hasn’t stopped by now, you then need to decide if it’s something you can deal with or not.  If you can’t deal with it leave him and if you’re going to stay stop brining the same ol’ stuff up.  After a certain point men stop taking our threats about leaving them seriously if they continue to stay after they’ve treated us like crap.  Why should they stop?  The worst that will happen in their mind is that they may have to hear your mouth for a couple of hours.  Either leave or shut up, people rarely change.


Yeah, I know, I know, it’s your body you can do what you want to do with it and give it to who ever you want to give it to….blah, blah, blah.  I have to tell you, if you’re going to do that, then I need for you to be prepared for the consequences and the backlash.  What do I mean?  I mean, don’t go looking for a relationship or respect from someone you gave up to a minute after meeting them.  I understand that one night stands or a friends with benefit type of situation may sometime turn into a real relationship but don’t feel some type of way when you see the person you gave it up to last night and he acts as if he doesn’t know you because guess what?! He probably sees you as a jump-off.  If that doesn’t bother you, then hoe on!  But if you think you’ll feel some type of way, let him prove himself worthy of your lady parts, even if it’s all about sex.  Everyone shouldn’t have the privilege to get in between your legs, leave some mystery to yourself.

There are of course plenty of other things that we should probably stop doing but these are the ones that stuck out to me the most.  Also, some of these rules can be thrown out if you’re married.  You have the right to do most of these when you’re married. 🙂   What are your thoughts?  Do you agree?  Disagree?  Let me know!