Is It Ever Ok To Snoop?!


I’m sure by now you’ve all heard of Bravo’s new hit TV Show Blood Sweat & Heels, where 6 ambitious women deal with the ups and downs of living in New York City.  If you haven’t, then you’ve been under a rock.  If you missed Sunday’s episode the women discussed rather or not if it’s ok to ever snoop on your man.  You know, going through his phone, email, voicemail, mail mail, facebook, instagram or whatever else you can think of.  The group of six women seemed to be split on that topic but they refused to agree to disagree.  

I honestly am not a snooper…..I’m a great believer in, if you go looking for something then you are sure to find it.  I know plenty of women who are avid snoopers and I’ve actually assisted in some of their snooping.  My friends tend to think that I work for the FBI and have access to information that they can’t find all because I happen to have a PhD in “Google.”  Hey, I said I don’t snoop on my man, I never said I didn’t assist.

The big question is…..Is it ever ok?  First let me say something to you men.  If you’re going to cheat on your woman, be smart enough to cover your dang on tracks.  The only time I feel that it’s ok to snoop on your man is if he was stupid enough to leave evidence around.  What kind, you ask?  If he leaves his facebook page or email open on your computer or if he leaves two movie tickets in your house.  Sounds simple but there are plenty of stupid men who have made those very same mistakes.

Women, I hate to tell you this, if you already have an inkling that your man is cheating, then he’s cheating or he’s in the secret service (pick the one that makes you feel better).  Now women, we go searching for this evidence because something deep inside of us say “I just have to know,” but you really already know.  All searching will do is cause a deeper hurt and an angrier heart.  

So what do you do when you find this information?  I’ll tell you, you end up calling or emailing the other woman who has nothing to do with the situation in the first place (unless it’s your cousin, friend or someone else you know…lol).  Your man comes home, you get in an argument, leave him or at the very least get mad at him for a couple of days and then you’re back in love with him.  If you find the information that you’re looking for, please do something with it.  As naive and as weak as this may sound….if you’re not going to leave him after finding hard core evidence that he has cheated just don’t look for it.  What you don’t know won’t hurt you.  

In order to avoid being in a situation where you might have to snoop, it’s definitely best to have the lines of communication open and be honest with one another.  Realistically that’s not always the case.  You have to ask yourself how much are you willing to put up with, with this man and be ok with it.  If you’re fine with him cheating on you and you snooping on him, then do you. If you’re not ok with that, then you should probably find another man.  I know that it’s easier said then done but sometimes doing what’s right may be the hardest thing to do.

Until Next Time….




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