To Cheat or Not To Cheat….That Is The Question!

This may come as a shock to you guys but I have thought about cheating on my man on numerous occasions.  Before I get in to it let me describe this man a lil more.  Tony believes he’s the definition of a man.  He believes as the man he must take care of every single problem by himself because men don’t go to other people when they have problems.  I respect that, because I love real men who own up to their responsibilities and work hard for their family.

What’s the problem, you ask?  He ODs on it and it’s really bad.  It’s so bad he doesn’t want me to cook for him, partly because he believes I can’t (LOL, but I swear I can throw down in the kitchen) and the other part is that he believes since he’s totally capable of cooking himself why should someone else cook for him.  He won’t let me wash his clothes (and they pile up).  Worst of all when he does have a serious issue to deal with, he deals with it alone  When I say alone I mean he doesn’t want to talk or see me on the regular.

This year has been a very rough year for both of us, especially for him.  It’s been one thing after another so we haven’t spent much time together.  I couldn’t believe that someone would actually block someone out of their life that they supposedly love.  He’s one of the first people I call when I go through something and if I don’t he’ll be upset.  At one point of time I just knew he was cheating on me, so I did a couple of pop ups (well I always do pop ups, just because I can).  Every time I go over there I mostly find him asleep on the couch or about to fall asleep because he’s so tired from working.  Which then makes me feel really bad for even thinking he was cheating….LOL

He’s been working a lot, I’m talking morning, noon, & night, which leaves little time for me.  As a good girlfriend I’m always understanding.  He’s going through a serious situation and he has to do what he has to do to get through it.  But I’m only human and I need my time with him, I get lonely when I don’t see him.  Dang I’m about to cry just writing this.  Tony tells me all the time “You don’t have to wait for me, I understand this is difficult if you want to do you go ahead.”  Again I respect his selfless thinking but geez come on.  Even though I know he’ll kill me if I did (that’s another post), but for him to tell me that was like a stab to the heart.

When I’m with a man I’m truly devoted to him.  My friend Myesha believes I’m too faithful…LOL. Because of my loneliness I’ve definitely thought about spending time with another man (not getting physical with him).  I felt like I needed someone to use just to occupy my time (Yes I meant use).  If I wasn’t so picky in men and wasn’t so in love with Tony I probably would have done it.

I had to really pray on this.  I figured he has so many things on the line if he doesn’t get through these problems.  The only thing I’ve lost is time with him so his situation is definitely more important than mine, so I decided to stick it out with him.  What type of girlfriend would I be if I step out on my man just because the times got rough.  Even though he doesn’t physically allow me to be there because he’s a strong minded man and the real reason is because he doesn’t want anyone to see him at a low level, I’m always there for him and he knows it.

Even through all of his problems this year he’s managed to be here for me when I really needed him. Through a death in the family, special events and even when I’ve been sick.  He’s a wonderful man and I just couldn’t bring myself to do it.

65% of all relationships fail because of infidelity.  Do you cheat because you’re unsatisfied?  Do you cheat because you just want what looks good to you?  Do you cheat because there’s something you’re not getting at home?  I don’t know, you tell me because the day I actually cheat on him means that I don’t want him anymore.  So why do you think people cheat?

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    • sys
    • May 12th, 2010

    Yes to all those questions for most Girls….. But no man not even the one you or we love for that matter can fill that void called lonliness that arises when that man doesnt want to spend time for whatever reason. Seek God…Date him..Sounds wierd to some but on those dates he will reveal ways to help you.cope, speak to you.about your prayers and you ways to help.your Boo through his tough time. Dont add another man to.your thoughts thats.a part of.the formula for.destruction of a relationship.

    Take this scripture to heart and share it with your Boo. Dont read it to him because you said he was private maybe a card to leave him time to reflect without having to respond immediately:Genesis3:18 NLT>And the Lord God said,”It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him” So the Lord God formed from the soil every kind of animal and bird. He brought them to Adam to see what he could call them and Adam chose a name for each one.He gave names to the livestock birds and wild animals. But still there was no companion suitable for him. So the Lord God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep. He took one of his ribs and closed up the place he had taken it. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam. Atlast Adam exclaimed……… GOT IT THAT MAN NEEDS YOU BUT FIRST AS A FRIEND. Welcome God into all relationship…Hopefully you all get my drift.

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